My Wife Does Not Work!!!

Conversation between a Husband (H) and a Psychologist (P):

P : What do you do for a living Mr. Bandy?
H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank.

P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn’t work. She’s a Housewife only.

P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn’t work.

P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5 am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.

P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn’t work.

P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do?
H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn’t work.

P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
H : Take rest, because i’m tired due to all day works.

P : What does your wife do then?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.

Whom do you think works more, from the story above???

The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late night. That is called ‘DOESN’T WORK’??!!

Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!

Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each others roles.

All about a WOMAN ….
* When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.

* When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.

* When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.

Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted…

Forward to every woman to make her smile and to every man to make him realize a woman’s worth…!!!…


Today is page 6 of 365 years on 2014. Past is past jadikan tauladan & pengajaran untuk kegagalan &  kesedihan pada tahun 2013. Sekarang kena bangkit untuk kejayaan di dunia & di akhirat. Hati memang kena kental & sabar, cakap ke tulis memang senang. Tak semudah untuk di lakukan berterusan. Hidup kita mesti ada hala tuju, berguru, bahagia, ada ilmu dan bla bla bla… ( panjang sangat nak tulis terpaksa guna ‘blablabla’)

Misi pada tahun 2014 aku nak buka business sendiri. Banyak kelebihan kerja sendiri. Antara salah satu yang penting ialah MASA. Masa 2014 aku tak nak sia-siakan macam tahun sebelumnya. Rasa gigit jari pun ada. Memandangkan dah ada baby banyak plan kena buat. Kerja makan gaji memang sedap. Tau tau hujung bulan dah tau amout dalam akaun ada berapa (tak perlu check pun xapa) kalau check pun nak tengok duit dah masuk ke belum. Jangan  cakap aku korang pun sama kan? Hahaha sorry…

Semoga kita semua berjaya, kaya & sihat. Insyallah

Salam semua

Married Or Not, You Should Read This

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my wor…ds, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Baked Brown Sugar Chicken Wings

1. 2 pounds chicken wings
2. 2 tablespoons olive oil
3. 2 teaspoons brown sugar
4. 1 teaspoon onion powder
5. 2 teaspoon garlic powder
6. 2 teaspoon chili powder
7. 2 teaspoon smoked paprika
8. 1 teaspoon salt
9. 1 teaspoon pepper
10. 1/3 cup roasted red pepper, chopped
11. 2 ounces goat cheese
12. 2 tablespoons sour cream
13. 1/4 teaspoon salt

Preheat the oven to 425 degrees F. Line a baking sheet with foil.
In a large bowl, combine the wings, olive oil, brown sugar, onion powder, garlic powder, chili powder, paprika, salt and pepper.
Place the wings onto prepared baking sheet and bake for 25 minutes, using metal tongs to turn at halftime.
To make the dipping sauce, combine the roasted red pepper, goat cheese, sour cream and salt in the bowl of a food processor until emulsified.
Serve wings immediately with dipping sauce

How To Make Macarons

Steal worthy idea: Make macarons for your wedding guests. Place a few in a cellophane bag wrapped with a bow and a personalized message and voila you have a handmade budget friendly wedding favor. Read on to find out how to make Macarons as well as all their heavenly fillings.


1. Yields 30 sandwich cookies
2. 1 ¾ cups plus 2 Tbs. Powdered Sugar
3. 1 ¼ cup plus 2 Tbs. almond flour
4. 4 large egg whites, at room temperature
5. ¼ cup granulated sugar

It is very important to have all your ingredients in place ( literally, put in place the preparation and assembly of ingredients, utensils, pans, plates or serving pieces needed for a particular dish) ready before beginning to make the macarons. First, line 3 flat baking sheets with parchment paper and set aside. Second, using a medium-mesh sieve, sift the powdered sugar and almond flour into a large bowl and set aside. Third, in a clean stand mixer using the whisk attachment, whip the egg whites on medium speed until foamy, very soft peaks about 1 to 2 minutes. Add 1 tablespoon of the granulated sugar and continue to whip for another 30 to 45 seconds. Repeat this 3 more times. If adding food coloring do it now and whip until you achieve stiff and glossy peaks. Fourth, with a large rubber spatula, fold in half of the powdered sugar and almond flour mixture to the egg whites. Once it is thoroughly incorporated, fold in the remaining mixture until just combined. Be careful not to over mix. Fifth, using a piping bag fitted with a ½ -to ¾ inch round tip pipe the batter onto the prepared sheet pans in rounds about 1 inch in diameter and ¼ to ½ inch thick, about 1 ½ inches apart. Once all of the macarons have been piped rap the sheet pans against the counter a few times to flatten the rounds and pop any air bubbles. Now, allow the macarons to rest until they are no longer tacky to the touch, about 20 to 30 minutes. Heat the oven to 325 F and position racks in the top and bottom thirds of the oven.
When the macarons are ready to bake place them in the oven and reduce the temperature to 300F. Bake for 8 minutes and then rotate and swap the sheets positions. Continue to bake until cookies are very pale golden, about 15 to 20 minutes total, allow to cool. Meanwhile, bake the third sheet bringing the temperature back up to 325 F and following the same procedures as before.
Once the macarons have cooled completely fill with what ever your heart desires! I used cranberry, apple butter, pear mousse, vanilla butter cream and pumpkin cream to make these dainty little sandwich cookies. These are best eaten the day they are made, but you can store them in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 day or in the freezer for up to 2 weeks.

1. Yields 1 pint, enough for 40 small Macarons
2. 3 egg whites
3. Pinch cream of tartar
4. 1 cup granulated sugar
5. ¼ teaspoon fine sea salt
6. 2 ½ sticks cold unsalted butter, cut into 1-inch cubes
7. 1 cup canned pumpkin puree
8. 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
9. 1 teaspoon ground ginger
10. ½ teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg
11. ¼ teaspoon ground cloves
Put the egg whites and cream of tartar in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the whisk attachment.
Bring the sugar and ¼ cup water to a boil in a small saucepan over medium- high heat, stirring to dissolve the sugar. Attach a candy thermometer to the pan and cook until the mixture reaches 238F (soft ball stage).
While the syrup is cooking, whisk the egg whites at medium speed until they form soft peaks, about 2 minutes. Once the syrup reaches 238F, in a steady stream gradually pour the syrup down the side of bowl, resting the edge of the pan on the edge of the mixer so that the syrup does not hit the whisk attachment and splatter. This process should take about 15 seconds. Whisk the meringue until stiff peaks form and the bowl cools down, about 8 minutes.
Now, add the salt and butter and whisk on high speed until the meringue emulsifies and becomes completely smooth and fluffy, about 8 minutes. Add the pumpkin puree, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, and cloves while the mixer is still running and whisk until the butter cream returns to a smooth and fluffy state. It can be kept covered and refrigerated for up to 3 days.

1. 1 lb 4 oz Granny Smith apples
2. 2 oz. unsalted butter
3. 6 oz granulated sugar
4. ½ teaspoon salt
5. 4 cinnamon sticks
6. 1 ½ vanilla bean, split and scraped

Coarsely chop the apples into about 8 pieces each place all of the pieces, as well as the seeds, stems, and cores, in a medium saucepot. Dice the butter and add it to the apples. Place the remaining apple butter ingredients in the pot.
Bring the mixture to a boil over high heat, and then turn the heat down to medium low. If the apples begin to scorch, turn the heat down to low, stirring the pot every few minutes to prevent scorching.
Cook until the apples have cooked through and turned brown, about 3 hours. The mixture will look almost like a paste, and there will be no discernable pieces of apple. Remove the vanilla pods.
While the apple butter is still warm, pass it through a ricer. Let the mixture cool to room temperature covered with plastic wrap. Once cool, transfer to an airtight container and refrigerate. It will keep for up to 3 weeks in the refrigerator.

1. Yields 1 pint, enough for 40 small sandwiched macarons
2. 6 very ripe medium pears, peeled and cored
3. 2 teaspoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
4. 4 eggs
5. 4 egg yolks
6. 2 cups granulated sugar
7. 1 Tablespoon Grand Marnier
8. 1 ½ sticks unsalted butter, softened
9. ½ cup heavy whipping cream
10. ¼ teaspoon almond extract

Place the pears and lemon juice in a food processor and puree until smooth.
Bring the eggs, yolks, sugar, and pear puree to a boil in a medium saucepan over medium heat, whisking constantly, about 8 minutes. Once it begins to boil, whisk vigorously for about 1 minute on the heat.
Remove from the heat, and add the Grand Marnier, and strain through a fine mesh sieve. Allow the mixture to cool until lukewarm, then pour it back into the food processor, add the butter, and process the mixture until it is smooth and emulsified, about 1 minute. Pour it into a container and let it cool to room temperature, then cover and refrigerate it overnight, until thickened and has a mousse like consistency.
Place the whipping cream in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with a whisk attachment, on high-speed whip until stiff peaks form. Add the almond extract. Fold the whipped cream gently into the pear mousse mixture.

Internal Detox For Glowing Skin

Internal Detox for Glowing Skin. Photo by Rita~
* Do this for one week(morning & night). Every month 
1. 2 1/2 teaspoons good wuality honey
2. 1 slice lemon 1 inch
3. 1 cup hot water
1. Add honey to the boiling mug of water, stir till completely dissolved
2. Add the slice of lemon and allow it to brew for 5 minutes, stirring occasioanlly
3. Enjoy the drink